“You say in your book that confident men turn women on. However, I am not confident with women. What should I do? Should I never approach a girl until I become confident?”
This is a question I got from one of my clients, and it is an excellent question.
Indeed confidence is critical if you want to get pussy. I have never met a great seducer that didn’t possess superior confidence.
Yet, you will never gain real confidence if you haven’t been in bed with many women, regardless of what you do. You can read 200 books about seduction. You can stay in front of the mirror all day long and scream:
“I am confided around women! I am confident around women!”
I guarantee you won’t get real confidence.
You will stare at an attractive chick and still piss your pants…
Confidence comes from real-life experience. From the certainty that you have done something multiple times in the past successfully. Therefore, you will never gain real confidence if you haven’t seduced many girls already.
But you know something…
You shouldn’t give a fuck about confidence.
Confidence is highly overrated.
You don’t need confidence to start your way to success.
Why am I saying that?
Because nobody is confident at the beginning!
Do you think I was confident when I first started talking to girls?
I approached girls, and I was super nervous. Sometimes I couldn’t even open my mouth to talk. Literally, I went to girls, got stuck from anxiety, didn’t say anything, just stared at them like an idiot, and went away embarrassed.
But regardless of that, I found the courage to try.
I found the courage to do it again and again.
And that is the magic word:
COURAGE
That is everything you need to become good with ladies. If you have the courage to talk to girls and the persistence to continue after you fail, you will eventually succeed. Someday you will have a small victory, then another day another, and step by step, you will begin to develop confidence automatically.
Courage is the only thing you need to get everything you desire in life.
If you think carefully about it, we admire heroes because they mostly have courage. Not because they are invincible and confident at everything. But because they find the courage to do what is necessary even if the obstacle is huge and they are afraid.
Have courage, my buddy, and the world will be yours.
That is the lesson for today.
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